As this seems to be the main point of contention, let me offer a little mediation in the matter, for what I can see, you are both at fault and both have valid points.
Firstly, Judas, the Marquis does have a certain point that you need to not let your temper get the better of you, for it helps no matter. You are now making accusations of the Marquis which are unfair and you have no objective foundation to base them upon. I also think he has a genuine point about how these issues should not have been raised in public, and we could have easily had this conversation a week or so ago, if you had asked for all four of us to address it, instead of presenting it as a massive injustice to the general population. Your first reply, I thought, was fair and measured of your view of the situation. Your subsequent replies, you have lost your temper, please, take ten minutes, step away from the conversation, have a smoke, calm down a little. I also ask you to retract that final statement for it is an unfair judgement.
Secondly, I think, Marquis, Judas does have a point that if you talk to him in what I would consider, overly confrontational manner, all you will get is confrontation in return. I try and make sure that he is never under the impression that I am not listening, for when I do, he will listen in return and as he says, he can be reasonable. He is not beyond that. I am far more aware of his capabilities in discussing matters sensibly than you, and I believe he is, but you have to approach it in a certain way. I know he does have a temper, and does raise it far too quickly, and I am working on that, but I think your initial response to him here was overly confrontational. I also do not actually believe, in my opinion, he is bound to be detrimental to your inmate - I do not know Iago too well, but from what I have heard, admittedly from Judas, they do listen to each other and are reasonable with each other, in the main, every couple loses their temper at each other. And I think the more people Judas is capable of doing this with, the less likely he is to lose his temper in public in the future.
Again, gentlemen, please. Calm down and take a step back and reassess what has been said so far.
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As this seems to be the main point of contention, let me offer a little mediation in the matter, for what I can see, you are both at fault and both have valid points.
Firstly, Judas, the Marquis does have a certain point that you need to not let your temper get the better of you, for it helps no matter. You are now making accusations of the Marquis which are unfair and you have no objective foundation to base them upon. I also think he has a genuine point about how these issues should not have been raised in public, and we could have easily had this conversation a week or so ago, if you had asked for all four of us to address it, instead of presenting it as a massive injustice to the general population. Your first reply, I thought, was fair and measured of your view of the situation. Your subsequent replies, you have lost your temper, please, take ten minutes, step away from the conversation, have a smoke, calm down a little. I also ask you to retract that final statement for it is an unfair judgement.
Secondly, I think, Marquis, Judas does have a point that if you talk to him in what I would consider, overly confrontational manner, all you will get is confrontation in return. I try and make sure that he is never under the impression that I am not listening, for when I do, he will listen in return and as he says, he can be reasonable. He is not beyond that. I am far more aware of his capabilities in discussing matters sensibly than you, and I believe he is, but you have to approach it in a certain way. I know he does have a temper, and does raise it far too quickly, and I am working on that, but I think your initial response to him here was overly confrontational. I also do not actually believe, in my opinion, he is bound to be detrimental to your inmate - I do not know Iago too well, but from what I have heard, admittedly from Judas, they do listen to each other and are reasonable with each other, in the main, every couple loses their temper at each other. And I think the more people Judas is capable of doing this with, the less likely he is to lose his temper in public in the future.
Again, gentlemen, please. Calm down and take a step back and reassess what has been said so far.