Anytime that I have felt that my state could be harmful to Iago, I have made a point -- sometimes belatedly -- to remove myself from him and reflect. You will remember on your initial return that matters were handled more smoothly once we'd taken time away from one another.

Can you bring yourself to distance yourself from him if you feel that you might hinder his progress? Or have you become too dependent to allow it? And if you are so dependent, can you not acknowledge how this at least has the potential to be bad for the both of you?